If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time it is easy to fall into a funk where you aren’t doing the simple little things that can bring to closer to you partner. Just because you’ve had a long day and you don’t feel like being your usual upbeat self is no reason you can’t carry out these easy actions to show your significant other that you care.
1. Send a Text
Technology is both a blessing and a curse. Easy and constant communication will lead to inevitably misunderstandings but use it to your advantage as much as possible. Sending a text to your partner midway through the day to ask how things are going is a great way to show you were thinking about them. As an added bonus it gives you a head’s up about the kind of mood they will be in when you meet up later.
2. Tidy Up
Especially if you live together one of the subtle and persistent stressors in a relationship can be the state of your apartment. You may not even be aware of it but when things are tidy you feel more in control, confident, and happy. If you have a few spare minutes before your partner gets home to tidy up and they can walk in the door and be surprised at the new-found order in their lives, they will definitely appreciate it.
3. Listen and Engage
When you are tired at the end of a long day it can be hard to keep up your end of a conversation. You may not feel like talking about your day but listening to you significant other and giving them a chance to vent is an easy way to bring you closer. Pay attention and ask questions, then just sit back and enjoy the ride.
4. Show Appreciation
You may in fact appreciate the little things your partner does for you every day but if you don’t express those feelings they may feel like you are taking them for granted. Say thank you for the ride home from work, or for their making dinner or doing the dishes. A simple thank you is a quick and meaningful way to show your partner that you notice and value their efforts.
5. Be Present
If you are the day-dreaming type who likes to think about long term plans and how to get the most out of life you are probably a great person to be in a relationship with… Unless of course you are unable to remain in the present. Part of being in a relationship is experiencing things together and if you are off in your own head too much you will miss out on valuable bonding time. Even talking about the future too much puts you at risk of missing what is going on in front of you.
6. Don’t Criticize
Negativity is a recipe for disaster in any relationship, be it at work or at home. We all worry enough about self-criticism and criticisms we receive at work, do your best to make your relationship a critic-free zone. Part of being in a relationship with someone is accepting them for who they are. If you can’t do that, take a look at yourself before saying something negative to your partner.
7. Say Goodnight
A common thread in a lot of the items mentioned above is letting your partner know you were thinking about them, and that should carry through right until the end of the day. Saying goodnight, no matter what kind of mood you are in, ends the day on a nice and thoughtful note. It’s little things like that that go a long way to making a relationship happy and healthy.