The nature of the universe is change, and we evolve and grow with change. However, leaving our comfort zone and adjusting to our new lives can be quite a challenge! Here are some tips to help those transitions go a little more smoothly.
Start with a calendar. Whether you are changing jobs, changing locations, changing life situations, etc your schedule will flux, and you’ll want to keep up with it. When I had my regular 40-hour job I managed to hold the rest of my life in my head. When, I started my own business, I quickly learned the importance of a good calendar! Some people keep their calendar on their phone. Some prefer a tangible planner. And some do both! There is no one-size-fits-all for this, so experiment and choose what works best for you. Also, avoid overbooking and include travel time when you schedule. Leave yourself plenty of wiggle room. I’ve sometimes scheduled tutoring students within a half-hour of each other. This has been pretty stressful with the onset of winter and doubled travel times!
Most of us depend on routine. When our routines are disrupted, life can get pretty overwhelming and scattered pretty fast. Set some priority goals, start a “next step” list, and schedule those next steps on your chosen calendar. Your goals will give you clarity and direction, your “next step”s will give you manageable chunks, and your calendar will show you the space to get it done. If you find you’re still struggling, then backtrack — Did you stick to your appointment, or did you double-book or bump? Was your next step too big? If so, break it down even further. (Baby steps!) Or are you sure this step matches your goal? Is this even a goal you really want/need?
This does not contradict the previous “get”! Keep yourself active, but leave yourself some quiet time, too. It’s said that the twice-as-busy person needs to meditate twice as long! You deserve some time for yourself every day, and you’ll especially need it when working through the emotions and stresses that emerge during your transition. If meditation is not your thing, try a quiet walk or some time alone with your morning coffee. Do some journaling or enjoy a quiet drive without the phone or radio. It’s best if you schedule this in, too, or you might be tempted to skip this important one — and you’ll regret it later when you burn out or get sick.
Sitting at home on the computer to do that job search? Having trouble unpacking all of those boxes? Opting to order in and order on-line? Don’t! Change up your environment. Pack up your laptop and catch up on those techie “to do”s at the local library or coffee shop. Take a quick break from your unpacking to run an errand. Take yourself or your important person/s out to check out your new neighborhood. If nothing else, simply step out your front door and sit on your porch or stoop. Breathe some fresh air. Take in some new surroundings. Mixing up your environment can add some freshness and excitement while you work on some of those not-so-pleasant “next steps” You might find a great new spot for your “get still”, too!
In the midst of all the change, focus on those anchors that ground you. (And if you don’t have any — make some!) Keep in touch with your friends. Find and join an interest group or connect with your local community or spiritual organization. In the midst of job transitions, I found some stability with my weekly metaphysics classes. When you feel like you’re living out of a suitcase (or you really are!), give yourself something that feels like “home.”
You’re never alone. There are others that have gone through the same, or still are. Connect with these people and groups so that you can share your successes and struggles with those who will understand you. They can be a great resource for you, too. A new mom will reach out to other moms, and a small business owner needs a networking group. If you’re not the social type, read up on those who have gone before you. Visit those business whose model you admire. No one wants to reinvent the wheel, and people love to share their successes with others.
Change can be stressful, and stress sits in your body. Support your body the best you can by giving it some extra love and attention during this time. When routines change, good habits can be lost. First to go is the diet: meals are on the go — or get dropped entirely. Exercise follows suit. There’s no time or money for the gym, and you’re too exhausted now, anyway. Go back to that calendar! Schedule meals and meal prep. If you just can’t find the time throughout the week, look into healthy meals with easy prep, or pick one day to get that done and out of the way. I have a few friends who set hours aside on Sundays to plan out all of their meals for the week. They prepare them, pack them, and freeze them. (Then thaw, heat, and enjoy!) Work exercise into your week. If you feel you can’t set aside time for it, add some walking into your daily activities. Take the stairs. Find excuses to carry things. (And dance when no one’s looking!) Turn your meetups into walk-and-talks or bike rides. Make some phonecalls outdoors or walk to lunch, if you can. Finally, don’t forget good supplementation. Your multivitamin and Vitamin C & D, garlic, and alfalfa will keep your immune system strong. Add some Vitamin B to stay uplifted and energized. Always listen to your body. It will let you know what it needs.
Transitions can be challenging, but they don’t need to be a struggle. Following these guidelines can turn your rocky road into an exciting adventure! So, don’t wait — get to it!