No one can predict the moment of death and nothing ever prepares you for it. The emotional enormity of the experience, its relative rarity and absolute finality gives survivors little frame of reference to draw from. Dutch funeral insurer, Dela, observes that the most beautiful words are often spoken when someone has passed away. However, people don’t want to think about death. But, why wait until it’s too late?
It’s sad how people rarely verbalize their true feelings and say thoughtful words to those they love when their loved ones are still alive and can respond. Surely your loved one doesn’t have to be on their deathbed for you to utter loving words to them. As Dela says, “Why wait until they die when you can tell them now?” Say something wonderful today—and say it with the utmost of sincerity.
Remember life is precious. You don’t know what will happen tomorrow. All you know is what you can do now. Do the right thing and say what you need to say to those who matter to you when they are still here with us, including your mom, dad, husband, wife, sister, brother and or best friend.
1. Say, “I Love You.”
The words “I love you,” can make a loved one gush with happiness. It’s such a joy and pleasure to see the effect those three little words can have on others. As terrifying as it may be to tell someone that you love them, don’t shy away from doing so. Say you love them a thousand different ways and show it in more ways than you can say. Nothing quite matters like proving your love to someone when that person is still alive.
2. Say, “I understand.”
We are all human beings. We go through struggles and screw up sometimes. No one is perfect. Look at that person you care about straight in the eyes. Speak to them at a human-to-human level and say, “It’s okay.” Tell them you understand that, like you, they are doing the best they can. Nothing is as considerate and freeing as those simple words. You may not approve of what they do, but you understand. You “get it.”
3. Say, “I’m sorry.”
Saying you are sorry is not a sign of weakness, but of strength. It takes courage and great inner strength to say you are sorry. Loved ones need to hear you say those words genuinely just as much as you need to say them and be forgiven. As hard as it may be, you will not regret saying you are sorry. It’s a profoundly edifying and healing experience to apologize and (hopefully) have your apology accepted.
4. Say, “I forgive you.”
Telling someone you forgive them does not mean you give them permission to hurt you again. On the contrary, it’s an acknowledgement that it is never okay for anyone to hold on to bitterness and anger forever. Holding on to hurts and pains only hurts the both of you more in the end. Forgive to release the pain and anger and to, hopefully, restore a strained relationship with a loved one when that person is still alive.
5. Say, “Thank you.”
There are many people who don’t have anyone they can turn to for help and support. Let those you love know you are thankful for everything they’ve done for you and others. Make sure they understand that you appreciate them — that you are grateful for the good memories and continued love they show you even when you aren’t very loveable. At the bare minimum, say “I can’t thank you enough” and mean it.
Here’s Dela funeral insurance company’s powerful initiative that encourages people to show their love and affection. You’ll see the power that lies in surprising someone you care about with beautiful words of love.
What will you say to those you care about before it’s too late? Let us know in the comments below.