Relationships are some of life’s toughest tasks. They require a huge amount of work, dedication and understanding. It may be sibling relationship, friendship or marriage but the foundations and principle to keep them healthy are more or less the same. Sometimes after hard work and your best efforts they don’t work out, you may outgrow a friend or they replace you, nonetheless there are systems in place to safe proof any relationship that is of importance to you.
This comes before anything else because without it, nothing will fall into place. Respect for your significant other or your best friend goes beyond chivalry and not bad mouthing them, it about putting someone’s needs and values before anything else in the relationship. If your boyfriend/girlfriend hold certain beliefs, do not seek to prove them wrong but out of respect, support and encourage them where you can. Respect is the glue that will bring you closer and you will find yourselves having a deeper appreciation for one another.
Most people listen with the intent to argue whatever the other is saying, great listening skills are about hearing and understanding what the other is saying and taking it into consideration. Eve in the middle of a heated argument take the time to hear what your partner is saying. This helps you understand what displeases them and where your differences lie. Once you have established those two things, you will find it easier to manage and even avoid conflict all together
Patience is not the ability to wait five hours at a restaurant because your partner is running late, patience has much deeper underlining. It’s about giving the person time to grow in the relationship. Whether it be trying to overcome a bad addiction or getting rid of bad habits, you need to be able to give them the time and try not to hold their faults against them.
When you’ve made a congruent decision to work stay together and work on your relationship when the other person or both of you are in the wrong, learn to forgive. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting but it’s about giving them a second chance on a clean slate and not takin them on a guilt trip to win arguments or emotionally blackmail them. Forgiving your partner and yourself will free you both and also the relationship as it gives it new beginnings and a chance to do it right.
When you’ve been with someone for a long period of time and you intend on keeping it that way whether you’re married, dating, friendship or any other form of relationship it is crucial to be on the same page about where the relationship is going. No use having wedding plans with someone who has no intention of being married or working on a friendship with someone who just needs a study buddy for the semester and nothing more.
You deserve to be in your dream relationship. It really does exist and can happen with hard work, patience, understanding and love